Seriously.
It's so noisy in my house and I think it has to do with a work-at-home husband and a home-schooled son.
- Did you know: you can "work at home" and watch movies at full volume? Apparently yes, because my husband's doing it right now.
- Did you know: that even if you do the bookkeeping for your husband's company and the housework, it's still not considered "work"?
- Women, did you know: writing's just a hobby? Especially if you don't make more money at it than your spouse?
- When you need a break from the kids, you invite their friends over. Well, it works for husbands as well. The key is to invite their unmarried friends over or else you will have to fake enjoying conversation with the wife.
- Wear earphones at all times in the home. When your husband wants to chat, make him MSN or text you. That way, conversation is shortened tremendously.
- When your husband wants to go out without you, be careful about how much anger you display. You want him to feel guilty enough to bring home a cake or a new book but you don't want him to stay home.
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Clarissa - Oh, do I empathise! I work outside the home, and write, well, whenever I can. You have no idea how many acquaintances and work colleagues think of writing as my "hobby," and something I do "for fun." That's one reason I value so very much the online writing community of which I am so honoured to be a part. We all grok writing. Hang in there and if I were you, I'd have a bar of rich dark chocolate along with whatever you pull from the liquor cabinet ; ).
Thanks, I feel sorry for the male readers that have to come across this post. No offense, guys.
I just ignored the "writing as hobby" thing and wrote, in noisy situations or otherwise. Reflecting back on my earlier days and the struggle to find time and a peaceful place to write, I can empathize with you. It IS enough to turn one to drink!
Ann
I don't actually drink but I'm seriously considering it.
CD
that made me laugh....I wish mine would ''go out more and return with gifts''...love e x
Oh Clarissa you made me laugh! I soooo understand this. I use earphones a LOT. I've also been known to go to the local coffee shop to escape and write. And the MSN made me laugh too! I do that! So funny!
One top tip is to train the family. They need to know how serious you are and how important your writing is to you. That will stop them thinking it's only a hobby. It takes time, but it does work.
I can write and watch a movie at the same time. Must be a guy thing.
No matter how much work they do, stay-at-home moms don't seem to get any appreciation. I'd say the gifts are definitely in order.
You didn't mention a good way to get away is to have a secret room. You must have built on your house a secret room. First of all it would be just plain fun. Secondly, you could hide and write and hear all the frantic voices hunting for you which will make you more popular when you come out of hiding.
Teresa
e x, glad you thought it was funny. I couldn't believe how frustrated I was this morning.
Lynda, I hope in time it works. THanks for your support.
Alex, yeah, and my husband's a pro at it.
Joy, no. It's been like that forever.
Teresa, is that like a panic room. I need a panic room! "Hi, hon, yeah a coffee and a panic room, please."
Clarissa you have my sympathy. There are no men in my house but I use to work in an all male office. I spent many an afternoon explaining why, "Yes flowers are in order and no dinner is to be included."
Oh, I use to be an Architect when I did work, just in case you want that HIDDEN room. lol
THanks, Jules, I might take you up on that offer.
CD
Thanks for your witty and wise advice.
Also, please don't worry that I might take offence at your words. I've been married for so long that nowadays I can tolerate almost any discomfort without flinching, largely because I now know my place.
Great post. Thanks.
All the best, Boonsong
I was laughing and nodding all the way through this .... although I know it's not funny at the time!!! Excellent Post!! :)
I feel your pain!
I know exactly where you are!
While, I don't have a husband or even a potential husband I understand the sentiment about unpaid labor and assumptions about a woman's role in all that.
Boonsong, I wasn't sure how my male readers would take the post. I'm hoping no one was offended.
clutterbug, I feel better now but I'm glad you enjoyed it. I meant it to be funny.
Kit, Oh, so you've been there, huh?
Gail, we are not alone! Women, unite! ha ha ha...
Googlover, hopefully someday it will change. Doubt it though. Not in my lifetime.
CD
Aw! You make marriage sound so fun. ;)
I hope the day got better!
(I just noticed the little caption under 'post a comment.' Har! Made me laugh.)
- Corra
Love this post - interesting from the female perspective but completely resonates with me too. Funny, personal and insightful. Thank you.
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